Wednesday, March 13, 2013

I have a human heart, not a deaf heart

I am so sick of this “deaf-heart” bullcrap.

What’s next? Black heart? White heart? Lesbian heart? Blind heart? Paraplegic heart?

Get over it, y’all.

I’m a person. A person who just happens to be deaf. The only thing deaf about me are my ears. Not my eyes, not my hands, and certainly not my heart.

That doesn’t mean I don’t appreciate what it means to have other deaf people in my life. That doesn’t mean I don’t cherish the people who work every day to ensure that we deaf people have equal access and opportunities that hearing people have. But you know what? I take people not for what they do or what they are, but for WHO they are. As composite beings.

Who am I?

I am an individual made up of many parts. My DNA makes me human, just like everyone else who is reading this. But my DNA also makes me unique. I am a person who just *happens* to be female, white (and pink and tan, depending on how much sun I get), short, deaf, sensitive, stubborn, frustrated, frustrating, perfectionist, and more.

In other words, my whole is greater than the sum of my parts.

I don’t have a short heart.

I don’t have a stubborn heart.

I most definitely don’t have a deaf heart.

And neither do you. So get over it. See people for who they are, and celebrate that. Not for WHAT people are.

Because, in the end, we’re all human. And unique.


Candy said...


I agree.

I do wonder if they meant "I have deafness in my heart" as if they meant to say that being deaf is the most cherishable thing in their life.

The other day I conversed with a cousin I never met in person but met online via genealogy search. We have conversed for over two years. He once told me to 'friend' a person on Facebook who is from another country and to tell him that I have (family name) and (town where family came from) in my heart. ;)

Granted, it is different from saying I have (family name) heart. ;)

But, you're right. All of our hearts are not that much different sans medical-wise, if any. There is no such thing as a realistic deaf heart, blind heart (except in romance), etc. lol Good post.

Anonymous said...

I would like to say that the concept of _____-heart has been around for a while.

Ever hear of the Purple Heart? Most certainly you have.

If one ever happen to stumble into a gathering of vets and asks anyone for stories about any Purple Heart recipient that they knew, surely they'd gather around and share stories.

It's not about the physical heart itself as much it is about identifying experiences.

The fact you're blogging about "deaf-heart", appreciate having other deaf people in your life, cherishing advancements in rights signifies that you do, indeed, have a deaf-heart in my book.

I'd like to point out that you partake in racist, sexist and able-ist thoughts by speaking for other minorities, dismissing their experiences by implying that they don't have any _____-Hearts. Maybe this was not your intention but it's there.

Lastly - I am glad you're not speaking for me for I do have a Deafheart. It's what makes me human and unique.